Why we need to "Mother" ourselves

Since as long as I could remember, I have a tendency to say yes A LOT, to work really hard to accomplish something, and to please and please and please the people around me. It is only until these last few years that I have noticed the strain on my emotions, my relationships, my nervous system and my physical body. To see this was a very strong awakening for myself.

As my teacher Katie Silcox says, there can be a dangerous path when we don’t take care of ourselves. We turn “people pleaser to the martyr to the narcissist.” 😳

This first time I heard this I thought, WOAH this is my pattern. Now I am in the process of recognizing where I can stay in my temple, in my boundary, ask for help when needed and not take on everything myself.

As a teacher and a healer and as a woman, it is common to feel as though we need to mother the people around us, even mother the world. We do this before we mother ourselves. This is my daily practice. Imagine what we are capable if mother ourselves first.

We are never perfect “yogis” who never have pain or sorrow, living in an enlightened and blissful life all the time. We are meant to feel pain, to feel sadness, anger WE ARE MEANT TO FEEL! And most times this can be incredibly uncomfortable. This is what I am moving through. It feels good to share.

Our imperfection shows we are human! Only human, and that we can take the time to be our own mother, to take care of that inner part of you that is trying to be seen.

Just as a mother does A-NY-THING to take care of her child, we MUST learn to do A-NY-THING to take care of ourselves. Of course there is sacrifice and compromises, but learning to listen so we can be aware of burning our fire, juice and creativity. Do what it takes to care for yourself.

Be your own mother, ask for help, get comfortable with saying no, know why you are saying yes, take it slow, and take a bath.

with all my love,

xx,

Malia